When You're a Surrogate

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Newest picture of healthy baby B!

When you are a surrogate you take on a couple's hopes and dreams for a family. It is both an incredible honor and a huge responsibility. Sometimes, things don't always go as planned though and then you take on that couple's pain. My IF's have walked down the transfer road 7 times now. This time with me was the first time they had actually had a positive outcome at the first ultrasound. We found out it was twins and we were all ecstatic.


Unfortunately, at my last ultrasound on Monday, we found out that Baby A did not make it. Baby B is still healthy and looking great, but the pain of having to call and tell them the news was heartbreaking and I couldn't help but feel like I failed them somehow, although there is nothing I could have done. Surrogacy is an amazing thing that I am blessed to be able to do for someone else, but sometimes, it is a hard road to walk.

I want to thank everyone who continues to stop in here, even though my posting has been less than regular lately and hope to get back on track soon. Thank-you all for your support and here is hoping for a happy healthy rest of our journey.

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Kathleen is a homeschooling mom of four boys with a serious case of the Wanderlust bug. Her love of travel extends to her children, and has resulted in the family visiting 48 states to date, and traveling nearly a third of the year. She is the owner of LifeWith4Boys.com where you will find information on Family Travel, recipes, reviews, lifestyle and more.

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25 comments

  1. TiffanyDecember 7, 2011 at 4:09 PM

    HUGS! You are giving an amazing gift. I'm so sorry about Baby A but I pray Baby B continues to grow and thrive.

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  2. UnknownDecember 7, 2011 at 4:19 PM

    Many Hugs and Love and Blessings to you. You are giving them such an amazing gift. Will keep you and baby in my prayers.

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  3. SylviaDecember 7, 2011 at 4:27 PM

    You are giving them such an AMAZING gift! I hope Baby B continues to remain healthy! Many blessings to you and the family you are helping!

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  4. Love{&}BugsDecember 7, 2011 at 4:28 PM

    I am happy to hear that Baby B is still doing well! How hard that must have been for you!
    How did you get into surrogacy? It is something I have always wanted to do but I don't know how to go about it.

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  5. ZippyDecember 7, 2011 at 4:33 PM

    I'm so, so sorry...

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  6. Simply Being MommyDecember 7, 2011 at 5:47 PM

    I'm so sorry.

    I hope Baby B continues to do well.

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  7. AngelaDecember 7, 2011 at 7:13 PM

    So sorry to hear this, but so happy that Baby B us healthy and well. And here is to continued growth and health.

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  8. nicóleDecember 7, 2011 at 9:24 PM

    Awwww. That must be so hard on the parents. But I'm praying that this baby remains strong and healthy till the end!

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  9. Louise BishopDecember 7, 2011 at 11:42 PM

    Oh that's hard on you and them. I'm so sorry

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  10. Becca @ Mama BDecember 8, 2011 at 9:51 PM

    Oh I am so so sorry. You are doing an awesome thing and I'll pray that Baby B continues to be strong and healthy.

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  11. Tricia NightowlmamaDecember 8, 2011 at 11:58 PM

    As difficult as it was to have to call them I'm sure they are still eternally grateful to you and knowing that they still have a blessing on the way has to have them over the moon.

    My best friend too experienced losing a twin they called it a vanishing twin but she still was ecstatically excited

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  12. Barbara's BeatDecember 9, 2011 at 2:19 AM

    Prayers for you and your families. God has a plan.

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  13. TammyDecember 9, 2011 at 8:57 AM

    I am so sorry. My prayers are with you.

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  14. Faith and Family ReviewsDecember 9, 2011 at 9:20 AM

    I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you.

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  15. DonnaDecember 9, 2011 at 9:52 AM

    So sorry to hear this. I know the family is still so grateful to you! You all are in my prayers.

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  16. HeatherDecember 9, 2011 at 4:28 PM

    I bet it was incredibly hard to deliver the news :(

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  17. CourtneyDecember 9, 2011 at 10:52 PM

    What you're doing is a beautiful thing. They're still receiving a blessing. It must have been very hard though :(

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  18. Joanna @way2gomomDecember 10, 2011 at 6:33 AM

    I'm so sorry you had to hear the news and make the phone call to the parents. But like Courtney said, what you are doing is a beautiful thing.

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  19. HilLesha O'NanDecember 10, 2011 at 3:49 PM

    Awww, I'm so sorry to hear that! Wishing the best for Baby B.

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  20. LaurieDecember 10, 2011 at 10:13 PM

    Hugs, so sorry to hear about the other lil bean, I hope the rest of the pregnancy is uneventful.

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  21. Rachel @ Following in my ShoesDecember 11, 2011 at 1:55 AM

    Big hugs to all of you and I am sorry for the loss of Bavy A. Prayers the rest of the pregnancy is uneventful.

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  22. Anne - Mommy Has to WorkDecember 11, 2011 at 11:38 AM

    I'm so sorry...

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  23. That Bald ChickDecember 12, 2011 at 8:52 AM

    So sorry for your, and their, loss. Prayers for the rest of your pregnancy.

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  24. Marcie W.December 12, 2011 at 8:57 PM

    I am so very sorry. You are an amazing woman for giving a wonderful coupon the biggest gift in life.

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  25. CynthiaDecember 16, 2011 at 1:19 AM

    I had often thought about being a surrogate when I was younger and thought about how hard it would be but how rewarding. You are doing a great thing so stay positive and be well.

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