Stop the Judging and Join the Sisterhood of Motherhood #SisterhoodUnite

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I'm a Sisterhood of Motherhood Partner and am a sponsored blog partner, but all opinions are my own. Please see below for additional disclosure.

Did you know that if you Google the term "moms judge other moms" you will get over 136 million results ranging from rants about working vs. stay at home moms, breast vs. bottle feeding, disposable vs. cloth diapers and the list goes on? Go ahead, go look. I'll wait. Back? Now, are you as thoroughly disgusted as I am? We all should be. In a day and age when we preach acceptance, tolerance and anti-bullying, why do we then as parents, think it's okay to continue the same age-old battles of parenthood judging that have gone on in the past?


Today, I am proud to announce that I am an ambassador for the Sisterhood of Motherhood program brought to you by Similac. No, this does not mean that I will be pushing you to buy formula. This isn't about pushing products, it simply means that I believe in a specific initiative that revolves around creating a safe environment for parents to discuss and learn from one another without the fear of judgement. Notice, I said discuss, not agree, not yell, not insist that there is only one way to do things. I challenge you to be open-minded and consider another parent's perspective. It's time that we put down our breast pumps, briefcases, cloth diapers and judgements to join together to help each other. Because let's face it, no one got a rule book for this thing called parenthood, and we could all use a little help and understanding.

To give you a little background if you have never visited this site before. I am a homeschooling mom to four boys ages 14-9. I am also a surro-mom to the sweetest little 2 year old girl who is the light and love of her daddies' lives.



I have been a breastfeeding mom, a formula feeding mom, a working mom, a stay at home mom, I used disposable diapers, I was both a baby wearer and a non-baby wearer and yes, I have even been a dad when the father of my children couldn't manage to be around. I have experienced parenthood in a myriad of different ways, and continue to daily with one child who has a learning disability and another with a behavioral disorder.

What I have learned, is that judging can do no good. When I was a breast feeding mom, I might have judged a formula feeding mom. You know what though? When I could no longer be a stay at home mom and needed to go back to work, but every breast pump made me physically bleed, I became a formula feeding mom and my children are no worse for ware. Experiences like that taught me that each person makes the decisions they feel are right for their family, and that's okay.

We get it in our heads as women that it's our way or the highway, but the truth is, there are a million different ways to parent, and they are all correct for each individual family's needs. Remember the saying "It takes a village to raise a child?" I challenge you to think of the times when villages and communities used to bond together to help each other parent. Now, think of how the world is progressing today. Seems we could all use a little more assistance and a little less hate.

I could go on and on, and I will in future posts. As an ambassador for the Sisterhood of Motherhood (yes dads, you are included too) I will be sharing other messages of joining together and saying no to judgement throughout the year. The easiest way to show you what this initiative is all about is by letting you watch the Sisterhood of Motherhood video below. The beginning is funny, but there is a twist at the end that I promise you won't see coming. Check it out, it is a must watch!


I know the video puts a light spin on the situation of mommy/daddy-bullying, but it is real and alive all around us. Join me in helping to put an end to the fighting, bickering and arguing by resolving to make an effort to help your fellow parents through the Sisterhood of Motherhood.

You can visit the initiative's webpage for more information or to join the Sisterhood of Motherhood community. I encourage discussion in the comments on this page, but please know, this is not a place for debating parenting issues, this very post is about stopping that. It isn't to say one voice is right or wrong, it is to focus on something deeper, how we can all join together to form a community of parents who help instead of hurt each other. Any mean spirited or hateful comments will be deleted immediately.

* A special thanks goes out to all my amazing blogging friends who allowed me to use their beautiful photos in this post.

Similac partnered with bloggers such as me for its Sisterhood of Motherhood Program. As part of this program, I received compensation for my time. Similac believes that consumers and bloggers are free to form their own opinions and share them in their own words. Similac’s policies align with WOMMA Ethics Code, Federal Trade Commission (FTC) guidelines and social media engagement recommendations.

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11 comments

  1. I think this is a great initiative! I've done breastmilk and formula, cloth and regular diapers, babywearing and not, co-sleeping and not, crying it out and not. Different things not only work for different mothers, but also for different babies! There is no reason to judge one another!

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    1. Good point Paula. Some of my boys definitely require different parenting styles than others. My mom only used cloth diapers with me because I was allergic to them. You never can know another person's reasoning for choosing to or choosing not to do something, so it is best to just support where you can and not judge. :)

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  2. I love that this sisterhood is a 'thing!' Telling people NOT to judge shouldn't be something we need to promote but it is .... so this sisterhood is a great place to start.

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    1. I agree, it shouldn't need to happen but it does. I have friends who are moms who make all types of different parenting decisions, but fundamentally, we all want the same thing.

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  3. Love this. As if any mom (parent) needs help finding things to be convinced they are doing wrong or should feel guilty about. The bashing and judging is ridiculous. It's also a horrible example for our kids. But with all types of bullying I think it comes from insecurity. We put down the things we either don't understand or are in at least a small way

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    1. You couldn't be more right Lisa. We punish ourselves enough as it is. I am struggling with a mommy guilt issue at this very moment, and it would be nice to be able to speak to other moms in a similar situation, but you do worry about being judged.

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  4. I think this is a Great topic! We need to stop judging others and take something from everyone and learn from it.

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  5. I am of the mind that as long as someone isnt hurting their children, nor endangering others, there is no reason nor any place to judge. Everyone s different, the only differencde there should not be is the love of the kids.

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  6. I'm so glad you brought this up! I've noticed this on social media lately of mothers bullying other mothers because of their parenting decisions. Everyone parents differently and shouldn't be judged for it.

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  7. I love this initiative. The video was awesome. It would be nice to see more people unite and be helpful rather than bully and be judgmental.

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  8. What an important message! I wish more women would stick together and respect each other's choices...it was so hard for me in the beginning, and I was judged because I had difficulty nursing, then because I was STILL nursing, or nursing at all instead of working of full time. It was AWFUL! Someone had something to say about every personal choice I made regarding how I fed and bonded with my sons, and it was awful. It really has to end.

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