So I'm Not Married, Get Over It Already!10:34 AM
When I was looking for a match as a surrogate I was asked when the wedding date was. How about never? Seriously though, I don't know if I will ever get married again, but you know what? That is my decision to make and should not effect how people view me. It doesn't make me any less of a person because I do not have a little signed piece of paper claiming that I am bound to another individual, just as it does not make those who are married any less of a person because they do have that little piece of paper.
I was married once. Do you know what it feels like to wake up one morning only to discover that the person who was supposed to take care of you had snorted your life savings up his nose and you were losing your house? I do. I vowed from that point forward that I would depend only on myself and that is what I have done. With some help from my mom who let me stay with her for a few months, I have managed to get my own home, cars and an income that provides for my family. I am happy with my life the way it is and see no reason to change it.
Matt and I have been together for over six years now. We do not celebrate our anniversary, we are good friends and we rarely ever fight about much of anything. We are happy with the way our relationship is. If it were up to Matt, we would be married tomorrow, but he is willing to wait it out or be with me as we are and I see no reason to change things. My kids don't experience anything any different now than they would if we were married, so I see no reason to do it for them either.
What are your thoughts? Does it make you a freak of nature if you choose to be an independent woman?